Recently, I wrote about Steve & Josiah’s dinner, and I mentioned that they made some plans. Steve is working on making these plans with each of our kids. He is asking them, “What would you really love for us to do together?”
Now, their dreams aren’t mine to share, but I will say: they surprised us. You know why we’re surprised? Because we’ve never asked them this question before. And the reason for that is because…we had all the time in the world. And while time was passing, so were the secret dreams in their hearts.
So, we’re on track now for prioritizing and accomplishing the stuff that our kids will remember and tell their kids about. I wish we had done this sooner, but we didn’t and that’s okay because it’s not too late.
Just for the fun of it, maybe you would want to have a dinner all alone with one of your kids or grandkids and ask them the question, “If you knew that we only had a year or so to do something really special together – take a trip, go to a game, climb a mountain – what is the one thing you would really want to do?” Use our story if you want to, so they don’t worry that you’re hiding a secret diagnosis.
And then maybe – just for the fun of it – you could save some money or some vacation time or whatever is necessary to make that dream come true. I bet your kids would remember it for the rest of their lives. I bet you would too. No pressure, it’s just a thought from my side of the life landscape.
Sometimes, I’m discovering, we get the least amount of living done when we think we have all the time in the world.