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Cautionary Tales for the Sleep-Deprived

So, maybe it’s the crazy schedule we’ve had lately, maybe it’s the fact that my beloved has been gone for a couple of days, or maybe it’s just that working with young adults has made my sense of humor dark and twisted, but these Caring for Babies instructional posters triggered the laughing/crying emotion that I hate and fear. In retrospect, I suppose the teething tennis shoe was a bad idea and I should apologize to my kids.

February 29, 2008 - 7:51 pm

cass-a-rooh - wow… that was way funny…. my little siblings enjoyed it also….

March 1, 2008 - 6:03 am

helenw13 - Thanks Bo…

Courtney and I have now digested our pizza from that belly laugh!

March 1, 2008 - 8:17 am

bolovesjoe - Cassie- I think your family could make some great educational posters of their own! Am I right when I say that you’re now at 13 kids? Seems like a really big number, but all 3 D kids that I have met have been so overwhelmingly wonderful, that I think your mom and dad should go for an even 20. Please pass along my good idea to them. 🙂

Helen & Courtney: glad I could help. Steve’s been away for a bit and I was missing him and sad and morose and all other words that mean exactly that same thing, and I didn’t want to post anything deep today. I think I managed to avoid deep quite nicely!

March 2, 2008 - 7:04 am

cass-a-rooh - 13 is correct! That is a big number… yikes! I will pass along the idea. My mom has actually been writing a book… called “How to earn a P.H.D in Motherhood.” I’ll make sure and get you a copy when it hits the market!

If i see you in the AM at church i will make sure you get to meet the 4 youngest (biological) ones that are staying with me!

Make a Political Love Connection!

I took this little test yesterday – it helps you pick a presidential candidate based solely on the issues. It’s fun, but also a little like the girl who says she doesn’t care if the guy is cute, as long as he makes her laugh, until she dates a homely funny guy and then decides she actually kind of cares about the cute. Yeah, it’s a little like that. Anyway – check it out here. (It’s worth it, just to see the faces pop up in the windows!)

And a loving piece of advice: this test is built on your opinions about some very important issues. If you don’t have an opinion yet…get one! Do some homework! Read Real Clear Politics or Citizen Link (from Focus on the Family and it contains fascinating stuff!) or anything else you can beg, borrow or Google so you are educated on the issues your country is facing.

Let me know how it turns out – or at least let me know if you’re surprised at how it turned out! (I was surprised at my result…probably because I will usually pick the best communicator as my favorite, even if the best communicator is not actually the best…um…person. This time, for my kids’ sake, I want the best person.)

February 29, 2008 - 5:41 am

caleb and ashley - McCain and I disagreed on three issues…but the little machine put him as my first pick. Although I don’t want to vote for him. I think Obama will murder him in the debates. My first pick for 08 President would be Condi Rice…
So we might move to mexico and help Seth get a sun tan!

February 29, 2008 - 5:49 am

bolovesjoe - Yeah…I would agree that the choices are not very appealing. But the three words that ring in the back of my head as I consider the November election: Supreme Court Justices. That makes the choice pretty clear for me. Hey – maybe Condi can be one of those! She could rock the robe!

February 29, 2008 - 8:01 am

cass-a-rooh - That was so great! Although i am not totally sure i want to vote for who it said i should vote for; McCain. But i didn’t like some of the options they gave me so i had to pick the closest to what i would say…. hmmm….

oh and i’m with Caleb and Ashley… Condi has always been my pick… why isn’t she running??? She could however totally rock the robe… so we’ll see…. i also like the “moving to mexico” line… witty my friends witty!

March 9, 2008 - 8:41 pm

caffeevino - I clicked on your blog from work of heart blog roll. I just want to say I really enjoy your posts and I’m glad you talk about politics. I am a political junky and love watching foxnews and msnbc.

I look forward to more reading!

March 9, 2008 - 10:35 pm

bolovesjoe - Caffeevino – thanks for the comment! I’ve had fun writing in these “small pieces” for the past few weeks…and junky to junky: is this not the STRANGEST primary season ever? Who would have thought the democratic nomination would still be uncertain at this stage of the game? Crazy – but I like it!

March 10, 2008 - 11:45 pm

Kristin Bryan - Somehow all of my “top picks” were Democrats (Freaking Hillary was #2) and I think this is mostly funny because I am not even a little democratic in my opinions – especially on the financial/public issues.
Interesting.. i think there might have been a glitch.
When the #2 is the “I’d rather move to Canada” choice there’s a problem


I love safety. Security is one of my top five core values. However, my dad used to always tell me, “Safety in God is not the absence of danger…it’s just the presence of faith in the face of fear.” He said that kind of stuff because he’s pretty much brilliant. Anyway, here’s a clip from a message by Francis Chan (one of my new favorites) that addresses the same issue – also brilliantly. It’s only 3 minutes, but it’ll mess with your head and your plans and definitely your view of safety if you let it.

P.S.  How much do I wish I could preach from a balance beam?  MUCH!

February 25, 2008 - 5:56 pm

helenw13 - Good morning Bo…
I realized yestrday that now that you are a wordpress woman as I am that I “know” what your administrator page looks like(ignorance was bliss when you were a Blogger)…so you can see how many times I click onto your blog just to check to see if there is a new post…just so you know…I truly am not a stalker…no need for a restraining order…I promise!

I will comment on today’s great post later…as it HAS definitely messed with my mind a bit but Caleb and his playdough are calling me so until later!

February 25, 2008 - 6:21 pm

bolovesjoe - LOL! Actually, since it’s everyone who clicks from your site to mine, I always assume that it’s just curious onlookers, lost in the black hole of blogdom. (Honestly, I can’t believe how much time it costs me when I start to roam around.)

February 26, 2008 - 2:52 am

Jessica Carpenter - Go figure, I was already planning on coming home this weekend! (I have no Friday classes… so my plan was to head back Thursday in time for Emerge!) I can’t believe my luck. I’m excited for both the message and (of course) the shout out :). See you in 3 days!!

February 26, 2008 - 5:44 am

helenw13 - This speaks to me on many levels as I was a gymnast in another life…the balance beam provides a great visual and it will be forever embedded in my mind during those times where I am tempted to retreat when I should take some risks…allowing God to be God in each situation. If I were completely honest with myself there are a few areas that from the recent past have left me a bit gun shy…I am thankful for the visual reminder of the dismount after just clinging on until the end…I am rambling now…although when I do cartwheels now…I see stars literally…I want to a bit more spiritual cartwheels…and see Him…The Bright and Morning Star.

Bless you Bo and I hope you and Steve got some time of wonderful refreshment this past weekend.


February 26, 2008 - 5:01 pm

Lindsay Joy - I love that guy…and I sure love you! I gotta find some more of his stuff. Is youtube a good place? Hope shooting goes well today!

February 26, 2008 - 5:39 pm

bolovesjoe - Linds – is his church’s web site and has most of their messages online (love when churches do that!) You Tube has some good conference stuff.

February 28, 2008 - 1:18 am

Katie - Wow, that guy just made me feel about 2 inches tall. Such brilliant truth and so well conveyed. I’ve decided I’m going to preach from a balance beam from now on – just because people will think I’m athletic. Hee! You’re brilliant as always!

March 2, 2008 - 2:09 am

Lindsey Diacogiannis - Bo, this video was very encouraging!!! How true it is that we tend to “play it safe” and don’t give things over fully to Christ! Thanks for the encouragement!!! Blessings, Cassie’s sister Lindsey

March 4, 2008 - 5:01 am

bolovesjoe - Thanks for the comment,Lindsey. I’m working on the risk-taking part of my life. Some areas I’m good at it, some areas I’m still clinging to the balance beam (not pretty!) Hope things are well for you up north! 🙂


An Easy Bake oven. Rocky Road ice cream. A baby monkey. A handsome husband.

A Pong game. A better teacher. An awesome locker partner. A pink satin jacket. A handsome husband.

A part time job. A day without back pain. A worthy win. A handsome (and passionate) husband.

A drivers license. A stereo with cassette player. An acceptance letter. A good roommate. A godly (and hopefully handsome) husband.

Another part time job. A way to love a hard-to-love friend. A chance to share Jesus. A decent haircut.

A great marriage. A full time job. A car that would run. A healthy baby. A house of our own. A strong sense of purpose. A miracle for Linda. A message to speak. A new gift of grace. A friend I could trust.

A green light. A paid bill. A break in my speaking schedule. A chance to get away.

All these things I have prayed for at some time in my life. Some important, some not at all. Some long-lasting (23 years with the handsome, passionate man of my dreams), some just vapor (Pong, anyone?)

My heart fairly tumbles over itself with desires and dreams and strategies and schemes. It churns and spins over words and wants and sometimes forgets that all of life…all that I need…everything that works and wins is captured in One Thing.

One desire.

And from that desire springs…well, everything else. Over the past few months, as His presence has become the first and favorite priority of my life, Psalm 27 has become the distillation of my 42-year wish list…the anthem of my existence. Everything. And as I read it this morning, I was amazed to find my own heart woven in the words. I laughed and cried and all I could say is: finally. It’s good to finally and fully want the only thing that I can truly have.

Psalm 27:4-5 I’m asking God for one thing, only one thing: to live with Him in His house my whole life long. I’ll contemplate His beauty; I’ll study at His feet. That’s the only quiet, secure place in a noisy world, the perfect getaway from the buzz of traffic.

February 24, 2008 - 10:09 pm

Vitoria Ashley - Congratulations. You’ve done what I’ve always hoped and dreamed and wished was possible but wasn’t entirely sure it was. How wonderful that it has been done by the one person whom I wish the most to be like and am so very inherently similar to. i want you to know that I’m trying. It hasn’t looked that way for a little while, but I really, truly am. I hope someday to be everything you think I can be. Love, your daughter.

February 25, 2008 - 5:55 am

Jessica Carpenter - So… I just have to pursue God for 20 more years and I’ll be able to stop praying for a handsome husband with astonishingly good character :). Meanwhile… we still patiently await The Ultimate List for the Optimistic but Indefinitely Single Gal! Thanks for all the great blogging Bo- you’re so encouraging!

If you’re still looking for yet more books for your parenting class, I’ve heard Parenting with Love and Logic is quite good!

February 25, 2008 - 5:55 am

bolovesjoe - Ah, beautiful Tori…you are real. You’re not made of marshmallow and you’re not a copy of anyone else. You are real, and real people…keep trying and seeking and winning and losing and worshiping in the middle of all the noise of life. I love you more than words can say and I know this beyond everything else: He will be found by you.

February 25, 2008 - 4:18 pm

bolovesjoe - Jessica, two things: 1) Why does it still shock me that I am 20 years older than you…than anyone? Yikes! 2) I feel that you totally have the anointing to write The List because that’s the most inspired title I’ve ever heard! However, I do feel that almost-21 is a little early in life to employ the word “Indefinitely”. I miss you – come visit soon.

February 26, 2008 - 6:20 am

cass-a-rooh - why do i so often cry when i read what you write?
simply amazing.

this is inspiring and encouraging. I know that in 20 years i will write a blog post and say FINALLY! I will also say it many times between now and then… but i am excited for then to look back at now and say WOW and FINALLY!

Weekend Treasures.

Monday is an interesting day, yes? The start of something new (good). The end of the weekend (bad).

A quick reflection on the weekend at the Stern home. Tessie had 10 girls over for her birthday. Ten thirteen-year-olds + 5 hours = WOW. To celebrate the life and liberty of Tess Stern, we made amazing pound cake sundaes. So named, because of the pounds you will gain.

On Saturday, I got to catch up on some reading. I’m working on research for a parenting conference I’m planning for May, and I’ve been sorting through books, books, books…as well as DVD’s and other resources so we can offer the parents and families at our church the very best stuff available. So, my parenting book treasure for this weekend is: Single Parenting That Works by Dr. Kevin Leman. If you are a single parent or you know and love one, pick up this book…it’s just wonderfully balanced and encouraging. (If you know of a great book on marriage or parenting, PLEASE shoot me a comment ASAP. I’m always looking…)

I ran into another treasure in the March issue of Bon Appetit. There, among the glossy food-filled pages was a column on cinnamon rolls that was warm and wonderful (just like the perfect cinnamon roll). I checked out the author’s blog and: MORE wonderful! Even if you’re not a foodie, you gotta check it out at Orangette.

Sunday was my first Sunday in about 8 weeks that I’ve been able to just go to church and not speak anywhere. Oh, truly…SO great! And, my treasure of the weekend was absolutely Pastor Ken’s message called Never Give Up .  If you get a chance, give a listen!  I’m up to bat this weekend in the Moses series and I’m speaking on the 10 plagues and the Passover and I’m SO excited! Studying for it has just been remarkable.

So, that’s my weekend. A little of everything. A lot of wonderful. I wanted to pass the treasures along to you. Can’t wait to see what the week has in store…oh, yeah, Valentine’s Day! OH…I almost forgot! I have a great list for single people and I hope to get it posted before Thursday. I promised Jessica and Mekenzie…it shall be done!